I'm better of because....you were only using me.   because you don't deserve someone like me.   because everyone says so.   because...I don't know why anymore.  Added:10/12/2008

You are... a liar a cheat a thief Added:9/16/2008

I am Better Off Because   You can't be faithful to anyone.   I will never have to wonder what sneaky things you are up to...it's now her problem.   You can't hurt me anymore, lie to me anymore, use me anymore, or treat me as your option anymore.   I want a man who doesn't live with his parents.   I want a man who doesn't change who he is to please others and fit in with others and likes the person he is instead of wears a mask.   You can't break my heart anymore.   You can't cheat on me anymore.   You can't make me feel like I am not good enough anymore.   You can't disrespect me anymore.   I am better off because you only bring pain and I am tired of pain.  Added:9/14/2008

because I don't have to gel my hair everytime I see you because now I don't have to feel unappreciated anymore because nowI won't have anyone telling me I don't look handsome when I don't dress up nice because I don't have to walk on egg shells anymore around you because no one will tell me that I'm not special because you're not there to tell me that baseball is a stupid sport because someone will understand that playing ball is something I've been in love with since I was 4 because someone won't care what I act like so their friends will accept me because now I don't have to wonder why you never texted back because someone will never fall out of love with me some day Added:9/10/2008

I get the bed to myself Added:9/7/2008

* I won't have to deal with you bolting whenever things get intense * Because I won't have to put up with your procrastination *or your excuses * I won't have to deal with your insane and enmeshed relationship with your mother * I won't have to deal with passive aggressiveness * I won't have to clean up your mess like I am your mother * I won't have to wonder what you are sneaking around doing * I won't have to feel like I am 'the problem" * I won't have to be "the angry bitch" * I will begin to make friends and to build a life in this country you brought me to, but have not helped one bit to make a home * I will not have to be the person who takes the initiative for everything * I will not have to watch your downward spiral for drinking and will continue forward with my own sobriety * I will not have to be with someone who does not wish to find insight or make changes * I will be better able to continue forward with my own insights and to make the changes I need to make * I will not be so perpetually anxious * I will not have to live my life through a computer game in order to 'connect' with you * my kids and I will have more peace * I value the wonderful opportunity you provided for me to address my own issues - you were the perfect catalyst to dredge up the issues I need to deal with - I just don't need the trigger sleeping next to me in my bed* Added:8/31/2008

I am a better mom when I can spend my energy on my kids and taking care of them.... I am more financially stable...the bills n rent are always on time My kids n I are living healthier lifestyles... I do things I've always wanted to do, wanted to try I look good because I can buy myself nice clothes n stuff I can have my family n friends visiting me at my house My house is always clean There is always food in the fridge and cupboards My mind is free from worries about you I can have good times with my friends...girls nite out! I don't have to be controlled by anyone I don't have to answer the phone if I don't want to I excercise, diet, do good things for ME! I started 2 new businesses It's a whole new life! I don't have drugs or alcohol ruining my life I control the remote ;) Added:8/23/2008

i never have to worry about when your going to abandon me again Added:8/23/2008

I AM BETTER OFF:   because I no longer have to walk on egg shells for you. because I can have my hair theway I want it. because you wont force me to eat everything on my plate just because you are paying for dinner because I wont get shoved into walls because you think im cheating on you because I can be a loud as I want without you telling me to shut up or calm down because I know that I am not a whore, or a slut, just because ive slept with more people then you because I deserve to have a girls night out, and not get a million text messages or phone calls because you said if I ever got my Doctorate Degree, you would leave me, because im not allowed to look smarter then you because I dont have to convince you the sex felt good for me, because your so sure ive had bigger and better because I finally dont have to wonder if this engagement ring ment something, because I know now it didnt because you were never a friend for me because everytime you hit me, when I bring it up later, you would say "i dont know what your talking about" because you know damn well you will never find a girl who will cook as good as me, and ill find someone who appreciates it because I no longer have to worry, if today, your going to get upset or mad at me I dont have to stop what im doing to call and wake you up. You have an alarm clock. use it. because you dont have respect for women in general, not even your mother, who you make cry all the time because you wouldnt get back on the lithium for your bi-polar disorder that you deny to have because sending me a letter shouldnt be a hassle, you should want to show me you care because I will not live a double standard to where you can do whatever you want and I have to sit at home If im sad about something and crying, you wont mock/make fun of me I dont need to ask your permission to buy anything I dont get accused at staring at other guys, when I never did, my eyes where always on you, I knew better, and didnt want to be hurt by you Now I can move anywhere I want, and I dont have to wait for you to get out of the military I dont have to play it off like "oh yes, he's changed, we are so happy and he is so good to me" BECAUSE THAT WAS A LIE I dont have to worry about your brother hating me I dont have to worry about you breaking up with me for some fat bitch who will spread her legs for a beer and a cheeseburger I dont have to stress out about finding YOU a job, because your too incompitent to write your own fucking resume I dont have to wonder how your life will turn out, i already know, because you will always take the easy way out about the only thing your good at is saving money, only so you can feel like your better then everyone, we both know you will stay in the military, live in your moms house when you get out, and use that money to buy a nice car so you can pick up high school chicks who dont know any better i dont have to say I love you anymore, three words that felt so empty and meaningless I CAN BE THE WONDERFUL PERSON I KNOW I AM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!       Added:8/7/2008

Now I can travel whenever I want, wherever I want. I can work as much as I want, without you telling me I'm a workaholic. Not every conversation has to be ultra philosophical. I'm no longer cleaning up your mess. I have no intention of settling down in one country with you or anybody else - I want to move around, and now I can. I can watch marathons of my favourite series on dvd. I don't have to watch you check out other girls. Added:7/16/2008

I can regain my confidence and power over my own life. I can now realise how I changed when I was with you. I can have colour and joy in my life. Added:7/6/2008

I'm better off because... I can go to a restaurant order wine, appetizers, a main course, and dessert and not feel bad... I will be able tobe with someone who wants children... I can find someone who will communicate with me when they're happy, sad, lonely, tired... I will find someone who wants to live in the city, not in the suburbs... I can find a partner who will prioritize life over work... I can find someone who understands, lives, and practices unconditional love and for better or worse. Added:7/3/2008

I know that I was not a priority even tho he said he loved me so much...which I fell for and now I am not going to wonder why he broke it off with me, I just know that I must move on Added:6/8/2008

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I no longer have to go to bed alone while he deals with his addictions, or feeling less than while he views his porn on the computer Added:6/8/2008

I deserve better...to sit around and get treated by you the way you were treating me is abusive to myself. Added:5/4/2008

I am better off because...   I am not well and when I asked you to be there for me just as a friend...you weren't genuine. How can you claim you love me? You wanted me to fly across the Altantic Ocean to beg for your sympathy. Even if, tomorrow is my last day of my life I will not see you if I were to be in your country.   I am strong, I am brave, I am scared but not a beggar and I am not desperate for you to abuse my heart. I will be okay. I will tell you that, I will deal with my challenge myself. I WILL BE OKAY. Added:3/18/2008

I am better off because.................  I thought Donald really cared for me.  We both made a wish upon a star one night and the universe brought us together.   For just a very short time I believed he loved me as he told me so many times.  He has a son by a women who controls and belittles him whenever possible.  Our love was forged on afternoon getaway's and quick little emails and phone calls.  I lost myself taking care of him and now have to pick up the pieces of what really "never was"  He has managed to tell his girlfriend that we were only friends and that I was the pursuer.  It get's even worse...I got pregnant.  Even though we both are'nt ready for this baby I have the burden of ending this innocent little life all on my own.  I accept responsability for my actions and will probably never get over what I have to do.  I have said my Good-Byes and yet maybe because I'm pregnant, keep getting pulled back to Donald.  I am better off because......I no longer have to worry about him and his situation.  I am a very successfull, smart, and beautiful women who needs a man to take care of "my needs" for once.  I did everything for him and lost myself doing it.  Alot of really nice attractive men have expressed an interest in me but I could'nt see past my obsession with Donald.  I will start dating "real men" from now on who are single and not on a leash.  I will no longer invest in short term escapes.  Marianne  Added:3/1/2008

1.If I had stayed with him I'd be living in a trailer cuz he's poor and only works for min wage 2.He avoided me after we made love and I had a pregnancy scare so glad I'm not cuz he cheated one me 3.He was not so clean cut always had grungy clothes that didnt fit him with holes in shirt 4.His dad hated me 5.His car had no air conditioning/heater 6.I was always on top 7.I always had to make the dates 8.He didnt talk much 9.He had plumber butt 10.He like french kissing and I didnt. "There ten things I hate about him and am better off because of." Added:2/24/2008

I'm better off because being with you was settling for less. I'm better off because I finally realized that I deserve more. I'm better off because I don't know if I would automatically go back to you, even if you wanted it right now. You had your chance and did not want it.  You threw away a great relationship because you wanted more from someone out there. You don't deserve to do that and then get to come back to me at your option. I'm sick of you.  I miss you and will probably from time to time think about. But I am sick of being sad about you.  I am really ready to move on.  And though my life is obviously emptier without you. I will begin to mend it.   I will be a better person having gone through this.  There will be moments of weakness and despair but after a 5 year relationship and only a 1 month post-mortem I'm in a pretty good emotional space. J.  I will always love you.  But I can let you go now, just as you have let me go.  Maybe I will come to see that you are right and there are better people for each of us out there.   Added:2/14/2008

I'm better off because... ...I no longer have to wonder if I'm a priority to you, I'm my own priority now. ...my parents really hate you, and there's no way it could have worked out. ...I can leave pajamas in the floor when I leave for work in the morning without wondering if you'll lose it. ...your sex drive never was in sync with mine. ...I don't have to watch your mother drag you around by her apron strings anymore. ...I have my own space, my own friends, and I don't have to be attached at the hip to you for your happiness. ...I no longer have to give 110% while I barely get 90% from you. ...you were never good enough for me. My heart wanted to believe that you were...but you've proven to me otherwise. Added:2/6/2008

I'm better off with out him because of the following !)He went out without me and didn't seem to care even if people asked where I was he would just say she's at home with caprisia 2)he spent more money on comp games then he did on paying half the bills 3)no more stink socks or clothers and smelly body when he didn't shower 4) no more picking up after him like you would a child. 5) never getting dressed up for anything special except His x-mas Party 6)never looking clean never trying to look good for me or shaving 7) always having to tell him to stop scraching his psoriasis (which didn't bother me unless he would pick at it) or he will make it worse like telling a child 8) picking up his flakes and picking his sores infront of me or people we know 9) not having him buy anything on valentines day cause it is too commercial 10) having someone love me for who I am and not what I look like Added:1/7/2008

I am better off because...   1. you cannot make me cry anymore, 2. I don't need to keep giving while you just keep receiving. 3. I don't need to spend thousands of dollar visit you across the world while you only make empty promises to me. 4. I won't have to receive presents that you put no thought into and bought in a 98 cent store while you tell me you care. 5. I won't have to live life wondering when will you appreciate me 6. I don't need to wait for you anymore. 7. I wouldn't have to be critized and judged by you. 8. you won't be able to make me chose between my best friend or you, my country or yours, my life or your life. 9. I don't have to bear the fact that you would spend hundreds of euro on yourself on things you like and give me nothing. 10. I can admit to myself that your one year anniversary was only a download link to a powerpoint you made which you try to convince me you spend hours on it while you are a computer programmer. I believed you. When I didn't ask for diamonds or material things, I just wanted a thoughtful gift like the one I gave you. But you only said to me that you can't enjoy the album because you only see that I ruin our memories. I ruined by my past and my friends doing. I don't know how you can relate the situations together. All I know is that you only knew how to make me feel bad, worst, and gulity.  11. I don't have to speculate why you know everything I write in my emails and you threatening to break up with me because you claim that is a failure to trust. I know you have read it. 12. during my hardest times of my life, partially because I did for you, you only blame and doubted and critized me but I didn't hear a word of empathy or comfort from you. You called yourself my boyfriend. When I confronted you, you simply just broke up with me. 13. I don't have to bear that fact that you didn't even take me out for dinner or pay for dinner, not even once, during my last visit. I put myself into so much credit debit for you which I took upon myself. But when I told you my financial situation, you offer me to pay me back 85 dollars. 14. I don't want to be lied to anymore. You will never come and visit me. You never planned to marry me. You knew you will end this relationship. 15. I don't have to be with a selfish jerk anymore. Added:1/5/2008

I AM better off because I no longer have to WONDER what you're REALLY doing.    That is enough!     Added:12/23/2007

He no longer feels that way about me, and I deserve someone who cannot live without me. Added:12/19/2007