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Please read this poem regarding a child who went through the care system

Making the move from ttc to Adoption can be a tough decision to make,There are those however that are placed in the Adoption area as there really is not any hope of conceiving a child naturally due to having to have a hysterectomy,Those that have tried so hard to conceive and for no reason of there own have all there hopes and dreams taken away from them,I feel make Ideal Candidates to give a Child a loving and caring Home.Having a passion from the start to have children is pure love itself when you have searched every avenue hope and dream.Remember the satisfaction will be to see a child placed in a loving and caring enviroment, and to be able to handle problems along the way.

The child has to feel as you do that you are a FAMILY and there friend.

There is no handbook to ideal parents its something born in you and the relationship you and your partner has built.

It is important that both yourself and husband are both 110% sure The Adoption process is for you.

The general rule in the uk is that if you are under going fertility treatment, Then you cannot go through the Adoption avenue.

If you or your partner are in any doubt dont proceed until you are both sure this is want you both want,I have known of one couple where the adoption process resulted in one child being taken back into care because his problems from the past where ongoing and they just couldnt cope with his anger and other issues,I spoke out once when i heard people saying how bad the child was and what a terrible time the parents where going through,everything was aimed at pity for the parents with no mention of good about the child,I asked about how the child was feeling and whether they praised him when he was good and why was,nt he there at the party(Never Isolate a child that has probabley been through a horrific background),No response was given I think that summed it up,I knew then they was not the right family for these children,They had Adopted another child shortly after the first with learning difficulties,and emotional issues he needed to be loved.Unfortunateley the situation today led the parents to Divorce,and the second Adoptive child remaining with the mother.I feel strongly about the children being let down by the services that acted for them.With the right family the first child adopted would have stood abetter chance,instead of being placed back into the care system.

The childs happiness and wellfair is the most important factor,Some of these children have been taken into care due to families just not being able to cope and want there child to have a better life then the situation they are currently in,

Others however have been through abuse, violence,Hardship and theres alot of understanding and heartache that still lay ahead as the children will need ongoing support and counselling.They will get upset and may even respond to violence themselves as thats all they know and think its ok to be beaten or hit.These children often blame themselves to protect those that have abused them.

Matching the right child with the correct Adoptive parents is essential.

Below I have researched and recorded the process into Adoption.

14 STEP ADOPTION PROCESS

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